How to write a Eulogy
What is a Eulogy?
A eulogy is a speech that is given at a funeral. It is an opportunity to say goodbye and pay tribute to your loved one. A eulogy is normally given by a close family member or friend and is a chance to reflect on your loved one’s life and the memories you shared.
How to start?
A eulogy is a way to pay homage to your loved one that has passed away, acknowledging the importance of their life and the memories shared. Grief can make it difficult to process your thoughts, we aim to help you find the right words in order to write your loved ones eulogy.
Think about what made them special, spend time with family and friends sharing stories and reflecting on the life of your loved one. Ask questions to get the full picture of their life from the happy to the funny, to the unusual. What were the highlights of their life? Marriage, children, or meeting their idol. Did they have any hobbies or special interests? What were their likes and dislikes? Was there music, food or activities that were special to them?
If you keep this in mind you will deliver a eulogy with honesty, love and respect.
Writing a eulogy
There is no right or wrong way to write a eulogy, every person is unique which means every eulogy will be unique. It’s best to think about the type of person you are talking about and how they would like to be remembered.
Decide on a tone, do you want to be light hearted or formal. You could write it as a letter to your loved one, a poem or simply a few words. Normally eulogies are divided into three parts, you could start with their childhood and going through the highlights of their life ending with a goodbye. Perhaps you would prefer to reverse the chronological order, beginning with the present or recent past, then working backwards.
How to deliver a eulogy
The death of a loved one is a difficult and emotional time. Adding the task of writing and giving a eulogy is particularly challenging. Everyone wants to hear the words you have written, so take your time and speak slowly, pause if you need to. Practice so you are familiar with the words and understand how long it will take. Although you may hope that you’re emotionally prepared to give the eulogy, it would be a good idea to have a close friend or family member on standby, in case you are unable to read it. You probably won’t need it but it will give you some piece of mind to know that you have a backup if you need it. Remember it’s okay to change your mind.